Read an article yesterday on Huffington post (extract from the blog this photo was 'stolen' from). I wasn't going to write about it until a friend posted it on her fb timeline and it got me thinking as well, and thinking about my own life.
Everything in the article resonated with me in an interesting way, the man explained what he thought love was and what was expected of him in line with showing and feeling love for his wife, and realizing he had it all wrong, he says every time he 'gave' where this means did something for her, helped around the house or just did something she reciprocated and in an intense fashion and he started seeing the trend, he then realizes its really all about that.
He felt love for her, he felt she loved him and showed him that.
It is interesting that he see's it that way and coming from a man, they say the different genders 'see things' differently, but in the end it really is about this.
I am strong believer in 'you get what you give', I am also a strong believer in expectations, they need to be stated and clearly, no hints and metaphors and cryptic jargon.
I also believe that our past relationships need to 'educate' us on the paths we should take and not take with our future or present relationships.
Anyway, the world we live in has obviously evolved, there's immense pressure to keep up with it, we must balance our lives and its not easy, having to work twice as hard to pay our bills, we also have to make sure our lives at home are also fulfilling and taken care of, the kids, and our spouses.
Sometimes we tend to forget our lives at home, we tend to simply focus on work and how we will make more money and how we will move to bigger homes or build bigger homes or get a bigger paycheck and we forget that of your life at home with those you love and love you is riddled with disharmony, no amount of money will fix that disharmony.
Sometimes we allow the pressure to blind us, we need to find solace at home, we need to look forward to being at home with our loved ones, we need to keep reminding ourselves that, we need to remind them and tell them and show them how much we value and love them even without all the money.
That to me is more important than anything else, not realizing that is the downfall of any relationship.
